You can build positive childhood experiences: Look. Listen. Love. Learn.

• Take the time to talk with your child, even when you think she doesn’t understand your words yet.
• Create routines and boundaries for your child so that he can be healthy and secure.
• Listen to your child.
• Think that all of her feelings are important.
• Accept and expect your child to make mistakes.
• Strive to understand and respond to your child’s feelings.
• Think about what your child needs before you think about your own needs.
• Look your child in the eye when you talk to her.
• Try to comfort your child whenever he seems to be in distress.
• Try to get your child’s cooperation rather than seeking control.
• Keep your voice calm when talking to your child.
• Compliment your child’s accomplishments.
• Understand that your worth as a person is not dependent on your child.
• Know your child is an individual who is different from all other children.
• Know that your child will learn to get along with others by being with others.
• Believe teaching your child new skills is better than punishing.
• Calm yourself when frustrated.
• Tell your child that she is loved and lovable.

Learn more about how these positive experiences build a foundation of optimal childhood development and adult flourishing by exploring Behavior Checker and the book, Discipline with Love and Limits.